Saturday, January 12, 2013

Dating Requires Consistency Persistent or Become Nonexistent

I would love to be in a relationship but the way my feet are setup I don't chase "NO MAN"... be consistent and persistent or you will become nonexistent...I'm a young lady you have to date court and establish a friendship. All dating is, is interviewing someone over dinner, laughs, and good times. It's not sex...stop skipping the friendship going to the sexship.. We no we can sleep together what else are you has to be more then sex to get my attention.. If you’re important, they’ll make time. If you’re not, they’ll make excuses. Effort is a reflection of interest, if you have to ask for more, you’re ignoring the obvious. Consistency, loyalty, and honesty are so basic they should be automatic… You shouldn't have to ask for it…People are consistent with who they want to be consistent with. It’s as simple as that. If you’re important, they’ll make time. If you’re not, they’ll make excuses. Effort is a reflection of interest, if you have to ask for more, you’re ignoring the obvious. Consistency, loyalty, and honesty are so basic they should be automatic… You shouldn't have to ask for it…People are consistent with who they want to be consistent with. It’s as simple as that.

If you’re too hurt or scared to open up, then just be single. Why play the game? There are no winners. Don’t play with the next persons heart just because you’re selfish with yours. If you care, show it. Don’t make things harder than they need to be. Effectively communicating can save you a lot of time. Be understanding. Be patient. Be genuine.Powerful women only scare weak men. You'd be surprised what the little things can do for you.. Make her feel safe earn her respect before you ask for her loyalty. Her being comfortable with you if far more important then her being impressed with you. Make her laugh, here her out, take your time. A Little patience can go along way. If she's REAL she will reciprocate... Dating is NOT a relationship. Don't put that man in an instant relationship with you because he took you to Red Lobster. You're not going to know EVERYTHING about a person before you marry, but you should date long enough to SEE how do they act when angry etc..All dating is, is interviewing someone over dinner, laughs, and good times. It's not sex. Dating helps you evaluate how they best FIT into your life. Dating is not game playing. You know from the on set if it can progress into something serious or not. Don't be a user who manipulates. Dating and marriage planning don't go hand in hand. Put the BRIDES Today magazine down until he ASKS you to marry him. Just because they're not the one doesn't mean they can't be a good friend.If you need a conversation (we're human, we ALL do) demand that through your ACTIONS. YOU teach people how to treat you by how you respond. A man has NO incentive to stop doing what he's doing if he's getting what he wants. If you're tired of him texting, STOP responding. If he wants to hear from you, at that point he will call.

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Lets Talk Random Thoughts...

Can you be an asset to somebody’s life? Can you being around make them better, happier, and stronger? Any woman can find a problem and complain about it, but great women know how to fix them. Any man can get ass, that’s nothing. Can you earn a heart, connect with a soul, and commit to building a future? The quality of a man isn't measured by what he gains; it’s measured by what he keeps. So… what are you really about? Can you build something worth keeping or are you just good at sand castles?I get it: The good ones require too much work and the easy ones bring too many headaches. Lose/Lose huh? After all the games, are you going to have anything to show for it? Will you have had anything worth remembering? So what are you going to do when it isn't enough anymore? What happens when you’re too tired to chase and trap? Even the greatest of players have to retire at some point. The game doesn't love you back and that doesn't take long to learn. It doesn't matter who you are, the games are going to get old eventually. It’s so easy to get caught up in the rat race. Date here, flirt there, but substance is missing so you’ll never get anywhere. How’s chilling been working for you? Feel safe? Secure? Less stress? Have you grown at all? What’s really important to you? Do you care about building something real or are you just chilling forever? We've learned how to place blame for everything but we avoid taking accountability for anything. There’s no growth in that. Did it increase you? Did it inspire you? Did it make you feel fulfilled or valuable? If it didn't, then it wasn't love .Just because they said the words, doesn't mean it was Love. Half the people so scared of love haven’t even experienced what it’s really about. So what is it… Are we all scared, or have we just been hurt so much that we doubt our right to love and happiness? We complain about loyalty, but we aren't willing to open up and show people something worth being loyal to. We complain about consistency, but we don’t give people the fair chance to prove themselves. We complain about liars, but people are hiding from the truth. We all complain about the same old things and nothing changes, because we’re all stuck playing the same old games. To find somebody who’ll take the time to really get to know you, care for you, and value you is so rare. I’ll rejoice the day building something real is ever “cool” again....I wonder if times will change, if people will get tired of all the games and excuses. I think there’s something in all of us, whether we admit it or not, that wonders what’s ahead. Like wondering who you’ll marry? If you’ll ever find love? Or if you've already met “the one”....You ever felt crazy for some of things you dream of?

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Happy New Year

If it was just on me I would've messed it up a long time ago. It was that prayer, that friend, that door that closed, that’s why I’m here. No pride, no shame, no regrets. The dots are connecting beautifully in my life & I’m just thankful God didn't give me my way.. I am the culmination of unconditional love, thousands of prayers, and undeserved grace. I’m here because people didn't quit on me. People have sacrificed for me, went without so that I could have, and motivated me. I’d be a fool if I claimed I was self made. If you have ONE person that genuinely loves you, then you’re blessed. Don’t take them for granted. Even when I feel like nobody gets me, I still know I’m loved. I don’t take that for granted. Can’t explain it but I appreciate it. I’m not easy to love or to even like half the time but I’m grateful, fortunate, & forever thankful to those that stuck around.

People can't find and connect with parts of you that you aren't willing to show. A chance is a terrible thing to waste. Struggle Teaches You The Value Of Sacrifice & Sacrifice Promises Success. Your only as strong as your weakest link people..... Watch who you add to your circle! ..Friendship isn't about who you've known the longest. It's about who came... stayed by your side, never left when u need them the most! You Learn more about someone at the end of a relationship than at the beginning. The Happiest people don't have the best of everything, They just make the BEST OF EVERYTHING...

I will exit your life if you abuse my time....I live to be inspired. Show me something new 2013. Do all you can & let God handle the rest. I loved releasing those people, places, & circumstances that no longer belong on my journey..Don't bring old baggage from a past flight on your new one. Start fresh. Have plenty of leg room. Relax. Enjoy the journey #2013. ... 2013 Lets Get It..Keep moving forward to the point where you have no idea what reverse means..

I don't need luck this year... I need opportunities. I'm learning that the little things God takes from us... was preparation for something bigger & better. Sometimes the best way to get someone’s attention is to stop giving them yours. Count each deleted negative person as an added positive to your life. My battle scars remind me of how God wouldn't let the enemy overtake me.

Think ill share a few mistakes and the many lessons...

What did you learn from the mistakes in which  you will apply to your life moving forward.. I must say I learned a lot didn't understand all of it. Yet some of it wasn't for me to understand..I learned so much. Think ill share a few mistakes and the many lessons...

1. I tried to force love. I learned that rushing things ruins them. I realized patience protects the heart & to let things flow naturally

2. I quit too soon. I learned how to be a builder. Can’t always walk out, run, & leave. Gotta be able to work it out, make it better, etc

3. I assumed people cared more than they did. I learned that loyalty is rare, genuine people should be appreciated, & my heart comes 1st

4. I gave too many 2nd chances and not enough 1st chances. I learned the difference between quitting and accepting an ending.

6. I worked so hard at times that I forgot to do the little things. I learned to stop and breathe, to value my existence a little more

7. I didn't give myself enough credit. I learned to appreciate progress. May not be there yet but I've come a long way, I’m proud

8. I let fear stop me from taking certain risk. I learned to trust my instincts & intuition, I learned to embrace the beauty in my mistakes

9. I was too stubborn. I learned to be a bit more compassionate, my way isn’t the only way. I value the peace compromise brings

10. I let my doubts speak louder than my dreams. I learned my faith was stronger than my fears. Trusting God made life easier

11. I learned to deal with my  Chronic illness Epilepsy and focus on the things I still can do and not the things I can no longer do, sometimes God allows you to go through certain things to strengthen and so you can help someone else..

I'm grateful for all the test trial and tribulation.. All of them made me into this Mighty Woman of God that I have become. I welcome this New Journey in my life. If I have wronged you, did anything to offend you, did you wrong  I apologize... and hope you can find it in your heart to for give me.  You see I have made my peace and asked GOD for his forgiveness so now I'm moving forward. . Going into my New season I know I will have many more battles to fight.. Well I must say I'm ready. Failure Is Not An Option for me.  ~Ms.K.Simpson~